I have been tatting for just over two years. I have found my own way around some problems, and hope these posts might be helpful to others. I’m not saying any of these are the best or only way to do things; only that they worked for me.
If you have a problem, keep trying, and keep asking. The important thing is to find what works for you!
Chains caused me problems right from the beginning. I had read several recommendations to hold the ball thread as when crocheting and this was how I taught myself to do it. Eventually I figured out that the angle of the thread across my hand was my problem. When crocheting, my left little finger folded in, gripping and controlling the thread which was held close to the hand.
When tatting, I found this very awkward.
When tatting rings, I could see that the thread was away from the hand, and much further along the fingers.
Now I wind the thread twice around the little finger at the first joint, using my right hand and winding away from my left hand. The third finger pushes against the thread, crossing it over the wound thread. It is enough to hold it firm, without it having to be too tight.
I find the movement much closer to what I do when making rings. For me it is quicker and more comfortable, and my tension improved.
Changing my method did slow me down at first, until the trick of keeping tension became automatic.